The first five years of a Muslim couple are the most challenging of in muslim matrimonial. This is the critical period where a Muslim couple adjust to each other’s habits and personalities whether they like it or not.
Try to do Islamic activities together
Establish your own lifestyle and rituals as a Muslim couple. A schedule helps in setting time aside for each other during fast-paced environment.
- make time for one prayer together once a day
- attending a Muslim religious study circle together once a week
By deliberately setting up these rituals, Muslim couples will learn how to communicate with each other. They will learn to become close to each other instead of two people living in the same house leading separate lives.
making a phone contacting during the day
Exposing each other’s dirty little secrets
Young married Muslim couples are notorious for not keeping secrets within themselves, especially related to sexual matters. By talking freely with your Muslim friends about your spouse’s faults, it only show inconsiderate restraint and this is seriously not only unacceptable, it is very unIslamic (harem).
If there is misunderstanding between each other, Muslim couples should seek to hide each other’s faults from the public. As the saying goes: “Do not wash your dirty lining in public”. They should seek advice on marriage problems from a “marriage mentor”, someone who is older, wiser, trustworthy and has the best interests of both parties at heart.
Dealing with in-laws
Husbands, wives and in-laws need to practice the Islamic rules of social relations with each other. UnIslamic things to avoid: sarcasm, backstabbing, abusive name calling etc. A young Muslim couple should make a special effort to respect each other as family members.
Comparisons need to be avoided, since every individual and every couple is different. Muslim men should not compared their wives to mothers and sisters. Husbands should not be compared to fathers and brothers. In-laws should not be compared to parents, etc.
In addition, there should be regular, healthy communications between spouses and in-laws. This can mean visiting each other at least once or twice a month, or calling if distance makes it difficult to get together.
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