If you are a western men seeking to find a real traditional Chinese women from China for dating, you can be easily misled by so many misinformation garbage floating around the sea of internet. Do not consume stories wholesale that you discover on the forums or blogs that are written by western men living in China. You really need to open up your eyes to discern the half-truths from the reality.

Many of these so called authors are merely westerners living or working briefly in major cities of China. Their stories are often seen through their tinted lens and may not reflect the actual social environment.

Dating information are often distorted due to the fact that western foreign men tend to attract the curiosity of Chinese locals especially Chinese girls wanting to experience the western way of life. By associating themselves or even involve in sexual relationships with western men, these Chinese women may derived their self esteem from these relationships.

Understanding Chinese culture and language

Before you are ready to build a relationship with a Chinese woman, it is better to arm yourself with some knowledge of Chinese culture and language. You will never want to turn off a Chinese woman by saying the wrong things which may seem casual in the western culture.

China Chinese people like to hold on to their traditions and that reflects in Chinese dating. China society is gradually adopting the modern outlook but deep down inside, Chinese people are traditional at heart.

To put things straight once and for all:

Myth #1: Chinese women are eager to sleep with western men

There are many information minefields on the internet and you must look at their underlying meanings of their dating adventures.

If you can find Chinese girls who are actually eager to sleep with you on the second or third date, there is only one option: RUN. This is provided that you are looking for a serious relationship not some one night flings or casual no-strings attached relationships.

Check their background, avoid those highly Westernized Chinese women from major cities such as Shanghai, Beijing, Shenzhen, particularly those who have a history of dating or living with foreign men. These highly Westernized Chinese women are aspiring to associate themselves with western men for their own hidden agendas.

Myth #2: “Good” Chinese girls offer sex as way of securing marriage

From one particular award winning educational website for foreign teachers and expat expounding on the virtues of dating Chinese women, its views are:  “For most good Chinese girls, an offer of sex is almost always a gesture of good faith in contemplation of marriage. It’s intended to be a binding dealmaker”

This is completely hogwash !

Virginity at marriage is very sacred to traditional Chinese women, Chinese society will look down on women who indulged in sexual relations before marriage. These Chinese women will be called names such as “loose woman”, sluts, cheap by their own people.

TIP: If you are a western man seeking a serious relationship, you are most likely to attract those highly Westernized Chinese women, so it is up to you to set your own filters and dating alarm system.

Myth #3: Step 1-2-3 dating leading to marriage

Please do not be misled by such thing as:

• First date: if a Chinese girl agrees to go out with a man, she is formally acknowledging this man as a viable candidate for marriage.
• If she agrees to a second date, then she is consenting to the distinct possibility of marriage.
• A third date for a traditional Chinese girl will commonly be perceived as indicating mutual intentions of marriage in the foreseeable future.

If Chinese dating is so easy and simplistic as following a three step by step process, then there will be no shortage of Chinese men who cannot find a marriage partner. These mispresentations reveal such naivety and lack of understanding of Chinese social settings by these westerners living in major Chinese cities.

In the rural Chinese community, pre-arranged marriage is still practised where parents of both parties agreed to matchmake their children.

There is no such thing as 1-2-3 Chinese dating and fast-food style dating can only apply to the younger generation of Chinese people who are more exposed to the world due to the internet.

In conclusion, Chinese women demand to be treated with the same honesty, respect, and dignity as any other Asian women.

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